Sometimes all a girl needs is chocolate and a girlfriend to share it with…
I love this quote by Anaïs Nin
“There are very few human beings who receive the truth, complete and staggering, by instant illumination. Most of them acquire it fragment by fragment, on a small scale, by successive developments, cellularly, like a laborious mosaic.”
Lately I’ve really experienced this process in my life. I’ve been confused about a lot of small things and been trying to understand why I’m feeling and thinking in certain ways. I’ve noticed that I get confused when I find myself in trying situations, situations that are pushing my buttons, like to say “I know this will annoy you and you’ll get confused but deal with it”. And like on a small scale, as I am ready to deal with one trying situation after another, fragment by fragment, by bits of more clarity, I’m receiving the truth and pure beauty of life.
For example, I find myself thinking why someone responded to my text message in a certain way, or why they didn’t respond at all and instead of creating my own reality around the why in my head, which I would have previously, I’m now ready to realize that my attachment to finding the why of someone else’s behavior is actually just me trying to validate old patterns and belief systems I’m used to. When I decide to let go of what has been and accept what is now, I don’t need to obsessively understand the why. Sometimes life just is and as my girlfriend nicely put it over a cappuccino and chocolate croissant at Max Brenner “You don’t always need to understand someone else’s why, just accept it for what it is”.
After a three hour long catch-up, with chocolate all over my face and several laughs later, I’d walk away feeling again more content, richer, with more understanding of myself. The only why I need to understand is my own why. I don’t need to understand other people’s why, only accept it for what it is and base my decisions on he cards I have at hand in the now.
Never underestimate the power of chocolate and true friendship!