Alan Watts once wrote:
“The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.”
I’d like to modify that to say:
“The only way to conquer fear is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance.”
We all have fears, either we’re aware of them or not. Sometimes we’re less aware of them because the roots behind these fears are hidden deep beneath layers, like layers of onion rings. We’ll never find the answer to conquering our fears until we starts pealing the layers. And it will be a dance. Every time we peal a layer we cannot tell what emotions or beliefs the next layer hits us with but if we accept to plunge into it, move with what ever we find and make a dance out of it, then the dance will become more graceful and beautiful the closer to the centre of the onion we get.
Fear is actually nothing more than a large street sign. When you recognise your fear, move in the direction of it because that’s the layer you want to start peeling of first. It’s like this red flashing light saying “come here, if you follow me we’ll dance together but only if you’re ready to let go of me once the music stops”.
See the street sign, don’t ignore it, move towards the red flashing light, accept the dance, own the dance and in the end, notice how that red flashing light is not scary anymore, actually, all of a sudden you’re dancing alone, smiling, because you’ve let go of the fear.
Define your fear. What is it? Why is it a fear to you? What kind of behaviour is this fear causing you now? If you didn’t have this fear, how would you be feeling instead?
I’m wondering…the more questions we ask ourselves, the more we probe on the fear we have, could it make us find the root cause of the fear easier? And once it’s found, could it be that the fear is actually tiny and easily removed when we know what we want to feel instead of the fear? Are we just holding on to certain fears because…
A) we haven’t really defined where its root lies and
B) we haven’t really defined what we want to replace that fear with?
Now knowing this, how best can you get rid of your fears and create a graceful and beautiful dance instead…?