All of a sudden it hit me. I saw what she was thinking because I recognised myself in her. I had questioned the same things over a year ago. My empathy was pure, it was true because I had been in the same situation. I also understood how others had seen me 18 months ago because I was now standing in their shoes; listening to her, like a reflection of me 18 months ago. That feeling was beautiful. Which made me understand empathy on a totally different level, and understand what the saying “you can only take someone where you’ve been yourself” really meant.