To queue up outside the Apple store before the launch of iPhone 5. Have to get home on time to watch “Keeping up with the Kardashians”. I need to read Fifty Shades of Grey because everyone else has. I have to debate for or against Kony 2012. Playing Angry Birds. Have to get tickets to the Twilight premier. Queuing to Zara on their opening night in Sydney to be one of the first women to get a piece. Wanting that beautiful watch I saw in the window of David Jones. Buying that lovely perfume I saw in the advertisement on my bus stop. Wanting those gorgeous shoes I saw being posted on Facebook. Trying that new diet to get the perfect body. Always wanting more money. The list goes on right? Today there are SO many attachments that we don’t even realize anymore they are attachments. They are however ONLY attachments.
The last couple of weeks I’ve been thinking a lot about this topic and how, once we recognize all our attachments, can break free from them, feel more true to ourselves, not to the outside world. To listen to what I want, not what my desires want, not turning my life into a slave of my attachments. I’ve come to realize its a huge topic. So I’ve decided to dedicate two blog posts to this. This is part one.
I was discussing attachments with a few friends this week and one of my friends told me I can choose to “let go or be dragged”. I totally understand what he means, but it’s easier said than done, at least it feels that way at the moment. I mean, I wouldn’t just give away my iPhone to someone without a compelling reason. Yes, I’m attached to its monetary value but more so I’m attached to the information I have in it and its functionality. I am attached to always being able to reach someone or something through a phone call, text message, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, email, Whatsap, Viber, YouTube, Pinterest, Instagram, Flickr etc. Just the thought of giving that all up in a blink of an eye makes me anxious.
To be fair, the last 18 months I have cleared away a lot of attachments by just becoming more aware of who I am. However, I have acknowledged the amount of attachments I still have and made the decision in my mind that I do not want my actions to be a reflection of the “need” for the latest iPhone, the sexy high heels, new makeup to change how I look, the stylish designer bag, the perfect partner etc. The thing is, when I really know who I am and what I stand for in life and let myself be me, I don’t need all that to feel happy, content and confident. When I reach that stage, I can walk into any situation without my iPhone, without my high heels, without any makeup, without a designer bag, on my own and still feel I’m owning that situation. Because all I need, to own the space around me and radiate my beauty, is already within me.
I know it in my mind. The question is though, how do I move the knowledge and awareness I have in my mind to my actions? How do I practically get to that point where I’ve let go? How do I make these actions automatic so that I don’t fall back into being dragged by old attachments and belief systems the second I loose attention…?
“The secret self knows the anguish of our attachments and assures us that letting go of what we think we must have to be happy is the same as letting go of our unhappiness.” – Guy Finley