That feeling when the joy and excitement of a friend makes you just smile and feel a light wave of energy move through your whole body. That feeling when the sadness in your brother’s eyes makes your heart break. That feeling when the love between two people makes you warm and fuzzy inside.
How well do you need to know a person in order to be able to empathize with them? Or is the level of empathy you are able to offer another person equal to how well you know yourself…?
Empathy is probably one of the greatest if not the greatest quality a human being can own. The more open we are to our own emotions the more skilled we will be in reading the emotions of others around us.
How beautiful is a person who authentically can empathize with you; who truly feels your excitement and sadness; who shares the highs and lows with you; who you don’t need to explain anything to because they can already feel it in you. To me that is a quality of pure beauty.
“The most beautiful people we have known…have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” – Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, psychiatrist & author.
Without these beautiful people in our lives, these people who can truly empathize with us, we easily feel lonely or maybe not understood. Human beings are emotional creatures. We need others around us to understand our feelings without having to explain them. We have a need for others to relate to us, to see us.
How can we truly share the joy, the excitement, the sadness, the loss and the love that people around us feel?
Have I asked myself what my emotions are? Do I recognize my own feelings? Do I find myself listening with only half concentration and nodding to a friend at the same time as I’m sympathizing with him or her; or do I truly see and feel my friend and empathize with him or her? What do I need to know about my own emotions in order to reach a stage where I can authentically empathize with others around me?
How can we bring more empathy to the people next to us and through that create more empathy on a larger scale around us? I’m not saying it might be through knowing our own emotions better first…
Find the root of empathy and you’ll find beauty, your beauty.